Day in and day out, I am striving to always keep a positive mindset about my body and even about other peoples’ bodies. It is so easy to get down on ourselves when all we see is Photoshop, extravagant vacations, crazy workout regimens, and people eating 500 calorie diets on Instagram. Guys, that sh** is NOT REAL.
You are worth so much more than you think. You are your mindset, and I wanted to write this post to hopefully enlighten and remind you of a few important things relating to the way you feel about your physical appearance…
- You could have it so. much. worse. Think of people who have lost limbs or have hearing/vision impairments. Anything of the sort. You’d never complain about not having a thigh gap around someone who didn’t have legs at all.
- Your body does so much for you. When you wake up in the morning, you don’t have to tell your legs to work, they just do. Your body does everything it can to keep you going. Your body works for you. The least you can do is thank your body for everything it does for you every day.
- The grass is never greener on the other side. Day after day, I see people online complaining that they aren’t skinny enough, and in the next comment, I’ll see someone else complaining that they are too slim. Just be yourself. Stop categorizing yourself in a “skinny”, “fat”, or “ugly” group, and just be you. You are not a category. You are you and no one else can say that.
- Physical appearance is literally the least important thing about you. Think about your best friend or your mom. Would you ever call them the names you call yourself? Would you ever tell one of them that she is fat/ugly/worthless? Umm, no of course you wouldn’t. You should be your biggest supporter, so don’t say negative things about yourself. Stop it right now.
- Negative feelings breed negative results. If you keep feeling like you don’t look the way you want to look, you’re always going to look like that. The universe works in very simple ways. Feel a negative emotion, get another negative emotion in return. Feel positive emotions, positive things will keep happening. It’s that simple.
Now that we’ve covered the basics, you’re probably realizing things you do on a daily basis that are limiting your growth and you reaching your goals. Let’s talk about how to combat these negative feelings once and for all.
- Be self-aware. When you first look in the mirror in the morning, instead of letting the negative thoughts ruin the start of your day, begin listing out things you love about your body. Even if you generally hate your legs, tell yourself “I love my legs and all they do for me every day.”
- Notice when negative self-talk starts to happen, and take note of when it occurs. For example, if you start negatively thinking about your body when you are downing a whole cheese pizza (no hate, might order one tonight tbh), take a moment to think about why you are feeling this way. Is it because you think the pizza will make you fat and keep you from reaching your goals? Girl, a pizza never made anyone fat. Excess calories day-in and day-out are what make someone “fat”.
- Balance is key. If you find it hard to stick to a “diet” it’s because we are not made to be on a certain restrictive diet. We are human. We are naturally curious beings. We naturally make mistakes. What is important is that you are fueling your body with positive feelings and nutrients. My tip to you is to not eliminate everything unhealthy from your diet, but to find healthier alternatives and really have fun playing around with different recipes. Make nurturing your body something new and exciting you want to do for yourself.
All I’m trying to say here is to get real with yourself. Think about where you want to be a month from now. I’m talking about where you want your mindset to be. Where you want your health to be. Where you want your body to be. Write this out, make a vision board, print out inspiring quotes and pictures. Just do what will work for you. You know you better than anyone else. Shout out to anyone (Becca) who knows what Hilary Duff song that’s from.
My friends, if you don’t have your goals written down, take one minute and write them out or put them in your phone. You can do anything you set your mind to. I know you will get sick of me saying that, but I honestly believe and know that it’s true.
If you want to get better at showing love to your body, start small. Begin with telling yourself how grateful you are for your health and all the things your body lets you do. Self love does not happen over night and we won’t have a perfect relationship with our bodies every single day. And that’s ok. The most important thing is to start thinking differently about your body. And start now!