Please note – this blog is not a substitute for medical advice. I have simply implemented these tips and mindset shifts to help me procrastinate less and work through my anxiety.
Many of us deal with minor anxiety – things we may not even recognize as anxiety, like being eager to please everyone, being afraid to make phone calls, or being very uncomfortable when you’re not in control of a situation.
In this blog, these are the types of things I will be covering. I am not talking about more serious types of anxiety like panic attacks and debilitating anxiety. Please seek professional medical advice if you are experiencing these things.
So, for starters, I’ll briefly tell you about my experience with anxiety. I’ve had minor spells of anxiety my whole life, and I think a lot of it came from things that happened in my childhood.
I remember being afraid to ask questions in class, not wanting to cough or sneeze in school for fear that all eyes would be on me, not wanting to stand out too much, and never wanting to inconvenience anyone. These are all pretty normal things that a lot of kids go through, but it really sucks and can prevent you from reaching your full potential.
Why are we afraid? Why do we base so much of our lives on pleasing others when we should be trying to make ourselves happy?
I let anxiety control small bits of my life as a child, and as I got older, it only got worse. My anxiety worsening had a lot to do with the relationships I was in.
I was in relationships that were emotionally abusive – see my blog about emotionally abusive relationships here – which really took my anxiety to the next level. I was constantly worrying about my partner lying to me or what my significant other thought of me.
Eventually, I was able to come out of these relationships as I grew to love myself and respect myself more. I also started seeing a psychiatrist for depression and anxiety, which did take time to see progress, but helped immensely.
If you’re in a similar situation, I urge you to reach out to someone you trust and take your life back.
So, now that you know a little more about my experience with anxiety, let’s get into the purpose of this blog – my tips for getting rid of anxiety so you can get things done, take back your power, and stop procrastinating!
Figure out why you have anxiety
The reason you experience anxiety is really important in overcoming it. So ask yourself some questions to figure out why you’re feeling anxious…
- Do you constantly have anxious thoughts, or is it only surrounding certain events/occurrences?
- Are you like me where you can recall having anxiety as a child? Or, did it just develop as adulting came to the forefront of your life?
Take some time to really think about this and try to get down to the root cause. If you’re struggling with figuring out why you may have anxious feelings, it could be incredibly helpful for you to talk to a counselor. You could try looking into online therapy or ask people you know/do online research for the best providers in your area.
Write out small steps
Sometimes the reason we can’t seem to get things done is because a large task can seem so daunting. When you have a big project to do, it can feel like there’s no way you’ll be able to get it done.
Let’s see how to better plan this out by writing a list of small steps to get the large task at hand completed!
For example, we’ll say I have 10 blogs I need to write by the end of the month (which is accurate because my goal this year is to post about 2 blogs a week). Instead of putting in my planner “write 10 blogs this month” I will instead break it down into smaller tasks each week…
And so forth… you get the picture here. Even if you aren’t an organized, “Type A” personality, writing a list can help you stay on task and avoid the anxiety of feeling overwhelmed or forgetting something.
Track your monthly cycle
Okay, just hear me out – my life completely seemed to make so much more sense once I started using a tracking app to assess my mood and symptoms every day.
I suggest using a menstrual cycle tracking app like Flo to track how you feel throughout the month. You may not realize how much your cycle affects your mood and anxiety levels throughout the month.
After a few months of tracking my symptoms and when my periods started/ended, things started to really click. As women, we have to realize that our bodies are a constant storm of hormone levels going up and down. We’re going to be different at different times of the month – it’s impossible not to be!
Most women experience the most energy and productivity after their period begins until ovulation starts which is called the follicular phase. Then, after ovulation and until our period starts is when we often feel our worst, during the luteal phase.
So, tracking your cycle can help you determine when you’re going to feel most anxious and when you’ll be in your best mood! This is my number one tip in this blog, so I highly suggest you do it!
Figure out what makes your anxiety subside
Do you feel better when you’re eating better?
Do you feel better when you’re regularly working out?
Do you feel better when you’re getting enough sleep?
Track these feelings and activities in your menstrual tracking app, in your phone’s notes section, or in a journal to get a good picture of what is helping you.
It’s also a great idea to write down your daily routine and your mood to see how the two go hand-in-hand. When you’ve only gotten 4 hours of sleep and you’ve eaten junk food for a week, are you experiencing the most stress and anxiety?
I can bet you that most of the time you’re going to be in a better state of mind if you’ve eaten nutrient-dense foods, gotten enough sleep, and have had some form of physical activity that day.
Take a look at who’s surrounding you
Do you spend time with people who are encouraging, bringing light into your life, and offer an open-mind when you come to them for advice?
If that sounds like a foreign concept to you, then you have some “circle renovating” coming your way.
Renovating your circle is a huge step in the right direction for personal growth and overcoming anxiety. People who are not bringing goodness into your life don’t deserve to be in your life.
You can still wish the best for them, but if they are not serving a purpose in your life, then you do not have time for them.
Understand that your anxiety may never be completely gone
What?? I thought this blog was about getting rid of my anxiety for good? Well, I hate to tell you the bad news, but it doesn’t work that way.
I believe the tips I’ve mentioned can provide a lot of initial help to get the ball rolling in the right direction, but it is going to take some real effort on your part.
The most important thing you can do right now is to start tracking your mood. Every day, take 30 seconds to assess how you felt and track it. You’ll be so glad you did.
If you feel like you need more help with your anxiety, I suggest seeing a therapist because it may really help you and be able to impact your life in a huge, positive way.
And, what’s so beautiful about therapy for anxiety is that it’s completely normal and expected that you’ll be nervous and experience (you guessed it) anxiety when you attend a session. So, what are you waiting for?
If you’re struggling with anxiety or procrastination, just know that you’re not alone – you’re normal! I’m always happy to answer any questions for you or just chat. It makes my day to hear from you guys! Make sure you’re following us on Instagram @selflovescript!